Archive for July, 2005

Is there a ‘Will’ in the House…?
July 12, 2005

The character of love has been on my mind a lot lately – my BIGmind, not my little mind (uhmm… nevermind). Anyway, not “character” as in a persona, per sé, but the stuff that comprises the thing.

Love is most certainly not an emotion. Sure, it can involve emotions when it takes on a more passionate, sensual or erotic form, or even the sort of love for people and things you hold dear, such as the fondness I have for my great aunt or my sister’s dog (not to compare the two), but that is not the thing I am thinking about right now.

If love were an Emotion it would most certainly pass away the moment my feelings changed. If I were angry one day, that could easily suplant the emotion of love, for emotions and feelings are highly shifting things that blow around on the breezes of stimulai and cause & effect.

What I am considering is that love, the Real Love, is that thing that is made up of choice and will. It is the stuff that endures despite changing emotions and malleable feelings, survival modes and toothpaste tubes squeezed from the top. It is, I think, in it’s truest sense, an act of my Will. I cognitively CHOOSE to Love rather than succumb to the forces that influence and affect me.

Hmmm… this requires more thought…..


Two prerequisites…..
July 5, 2005

I am convinced that there are two things that make a lasting relationship:

Thing #1: Compromise
Thing #2: Vulnerability

Without these, any relationship is doomed before it begins.